做好青少年自杀的“看门人”

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作者：俅俅阅读

分类：悦读发布时间：2021-03-24 09:24:43 250次阅读 导致孩子抑郁的原因有很多，比如天生的性格气质、创伤经历、学业压力等，但是通常一个功能健全及安全的家庭环境能让发生抑郁的几率大幅降低。......

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font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最近有一则让人十分痛心的悲剧，网红大V一得爸爸的爱子在美自杀，常青藤名校作为无数学子梦想的起点，却成了一得生命的终点。早在十几年前，一得爸爸离婚后辞掉高薪职务，带着儿子远赴深山，采菊东篱，全心陪伴孩子成长，温情感人的付出却等到了如此惊恸噩耗。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/650c3b06bd4ef6eeceb46ec7e8f53a7b.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; 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max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">近日，网上关于一得悲剧的讨论沸沸扬扬，有怒骂爸爸以“牺牲自我”的爱逼迫儿子的，有冷嘲热讽批判一得爸爸教育模式的，还有因为看不清事情的全貌对教育三缄其口：“教育是一门遗憾的艺术，任何教育方式，都会无可避免地出现这样或那样的问题”。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在所有的讨论中，网友似乎都迫切的希望在张一得的自杀和他爸爸的教育之间，建立起直接的因果关系。这里面，透露着大家的一种隐藏逻辑——孩子只要拥有正确的爱，获得很高的关注，原生家庭健康美好，就一定心理健康一生幸福成功，但事实并非如此，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一个健康美好的原生家庭会让孩子未来心理疾病的几率大幅降低，却不构成完全直接的因果关系。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">两件事情能建立起直接因果关系的，都是简单体系，比如上游做了改变，下游就立即做出反应，但是在孩子心理行为成熟的道路上，却是复杂体系，在孩子成长成熟的过程中，我们无法判断孩子受哪一件事、哪一个画面、哪一句话、那一段旅行和体验的影响，刷新和重构了他的价值观。当复杂问题出现了我们总是试图以简单的方法来应对是不负责任的。“一得的悲剧”有他的复杂性，复杂源于那些尚模糊的事实、那些我们还原不了的真实场景，包括一得进入青春期以后的心理变化和他进入异域世界的精神诉求，还有他最后自杀时的真实心理……</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; 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overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">美国国家精神健康研究所（National Institute of Mental Health）援引相关研究报告数据显示，青少年自杀90%源自于不同程度的心理问题，至此，我们不得不走进一个我们并不想触碰的话题——青少年抑郁。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; 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color: rgb(136, 136, 136); text-align: center; font-size: 18px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; line-height: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> 青少年抑郁——灯火之下 </span></strong></span></section></section></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">B站曾有一个关于“抑郁症患者”的短片特别火，片名叫做“灯火之下”，这个短片是由3个人大附中的00后制作完成，他们为了这部短片，做了一系列研究，走访抑郁患者、咨询心理专家、发放问卷、分析数据，将触角深入到学校中一个讳莫如深的话题。“灯火之下”的主角是一个高三学生，也是重度抑郁症患者，在阐述原因的时候，她其实说不出具体的节点或原因，一切都是复杂地交织在一起：“家庭氛围、学业压力、人际关系……”</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; 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font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在之后的媒体采访中，他们公布了自己的一些调研，这与很多心理学著作的观点不谋而合：</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">导致孩子抑郁的原因有很多，比如天生的性格气质、创伤经历、学业压力等，但是通常一个功能健全及安全的家庭环境能让发生抑郁的几率大幅降低。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/733083a9251b982350610f433cb35cfb.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">图片来自网络截图</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">根据2008年中国健康委的数据显示，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">中国有接近3000万儿童和青少年有抑郁情况，而2012年中国大陆25各地区2679名青少年（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">10-25岁</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）抑郁比例为20.3%。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">2019年7月24日，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">中国青年报在微博上发起针对大学生抑郁症的调查在超过30万的投票中超过两成的大学生认为自己存在严重的抑郁倾向。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">世界卫生组织也曾提出1/4的中国大学生承认有过抑郁症状。（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">数据来源：2019中国抑郁症领域白皮书</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如何让我们后代不再代际这样的悲剧数字，在如今全民内卷的时代又看似格外的艰难和消极。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; 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max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); text-align: center; font-size: 18px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; line-height: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> 青少年心理问题中压力的来源 </span></strong></span></section></section></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">虽然抑郁症的成因是复杂的，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是要为青少年的心理健康找一对左右护法，我相信“健康有爱的原生家庭”一定是其中之一，那另外一个会是什么？</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这个问题的答案，需要弄清可能导致抑郁的压力来源，当翻开简单心理与企鹅辅导《2020大众心理健康洞察报告》，我们似乎找到一点端倪（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">以下数据分析皆来自该报告</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/ee6090540c03bbe5a9846309b26151a6.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“导致抑郁的压力来源“数据据分析来自《2020大众心理健康洞察报告》</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">从报告中我们可以看出，87%的受访者表示自己会有压力，37.2%的压力程度在中等以上，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其中占比较高的是考试压力。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/fc60009ab1dc0036f9611595615af43f.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“导致抑郁的压力来源“数据据分析来自《2020大众心理健康洞察报告》</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">除了考试压力，在高三年级差不多有57%的数据显示压力来源于</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“对自己未来感到迷茫”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">(</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">排名第二的是“考试压力”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">)</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">随着年龄的增长，青少年要逐渐建立自我认同，同时面对未来道路的抉择，要有清晰的自我认知，</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是他们之前的经历和所受的教育让超过半数的孩子并没有做好“形成清晰的自我认知”的准备，也没有形成独立的人格自尊体系，这种独立人格的缺失会带来迷茫，进而产生无价值感。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而无价值感和无意义感通常被认作是抑郁症的元凶之一。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">那为什么超过半数的孩子们会在学习中在奋斗里逐渐丧失意义感，会对未来感到迷茫呢？</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们的“价值感”和“自我”去哪里了呢？</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">马赛厄斯·德普克和法布里奇奥·齐利博蒂博士在著名育儿经济学著作《Love，money and parenting》一书中回答了以上问题，在书中，他们对比了不同国家的育儿价值观。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">两位博士用了World Values Survey检验了教养方式在不同国家中的差异，受访者可以从菜单中最多选择5个值进行填写，包括独立性、勤奋、无私、服从、想象力等等。然后他们根据基尼系数分别列出了每个国家中选择了想象力、独立性和勤奋的受访比例，而基尼系数越高表示贫富差距越高。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/dba4faca8375c131a495cbc4d8a7d855.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span>图片来自《Love，money and parenting》</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">从图中可看出，“勤奋”和基尼系数的比例是成正比，而和“独立”“创造力”成反比。在相对基尼系数较高的国家，中国许多父母会更看重“勤奋”，将“勤奋”作为学习的重要价值观，在低基尼系数的国家父母则更重视“独立性”和“想象力”。其中北欧的父母认为培养独立的孩子非常重要，特别是挪威人，93%的挪威父母将其视为排名前五的价值观。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">从图中可以看出</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“勤奋”是中国父母最重视的学习价值观，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是这个世界的很多苦难和人生的很多坎坷并不是靠“勤奋”能够解决的</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">。“勤奋”固然重要，尤其是在基尼系数越高的国家，有助于形成阶级的跃升，</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">虽然这种阶级跃升的门槛似乎越来越高。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/cbf8d4cb761d89277a614f488b08ba74.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">来自PISA的数据：绿色格子代表社会经济情况排在最前的10%，红色小方格代表社会经济状况最低的10%；纵轴是学业成绩，横轴是国家和地区</span></span></p><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">虽然教育不公平普遍存在，但是父母都希望用自己的教育方式助力孩子的勤奋，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为从密集型教养方式的收效结果看似乎并不赖。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">以下是采集自OECD国际学生评估计划（Program for International StudentAssessment，PISA）的数据：</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">PISA于1997年正式启动，每三年进行一次，测试青少年在数学、科学和阅读方面的知识能力，该项目涉及70个国家，最近的调查中有超过50万名学生参与。下面的一组数据是中国和韩国的混合学生样本，说明了孩子的学业成绩和父母教养方式之间的正相关关系。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><img src="/uploads/20210324/12c9399e6f46b564bbc860f85107d6ab.jpg" style="width: 450px;" data-filename="filename"><br></p><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">PISA 2012中韩国学生在两种教养方式下的考试成绩</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">由此可见，非密集型父母（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">指父母对孩子学业的参与度和关注度较低</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）子女的平均分数为540分，而密集型父母（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">指父母对孩子学业的参与度较高</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）子女平均分数为563，23分的差距在PISA测试中是很大的差异，相当于芬兰（芬</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">兰以及瑞士是欧洲教育表现中第一梯队的国家</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）的成绩与法英（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">欧洲教育表现最后一梯队的国家</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）的成绩。（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">摘自马赛厄斯·德普克的分析报告</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">至此，我们回答了上述问题的答案：“为什么超过半数的孩子们会在学习中在奋斗里逐渐丧失了意义感，对未来感到迷茫？”是因为调研中我们信奉的学习价值——“勤奋”，包括其对应的</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“密集型养育”没有办法帮助我们的孩子清晰梳理“我是谁、我从哪里来、要到哪里去”，这些终极问题才是“未来不迷茫”的真正钥匙。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">美国国家精神健康研究所（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">National Institute of Mental Health</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）2007年的调查The interpersonal theory of suicide 发现，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“求死的欲望”来自“累赘感”以及缺乏归属感，而这两种的共同指向都是独立人格的缺失。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><img src="/uploads/20210324/58fb1533119811a4771da75f5c437b07.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><br></p><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span>The interpersonal theory of suicide，2007</span><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“独立”的人格体系能化解成长中的很多挑战，帮助孩子重建内心的秩序，找到他们自己，当他们和真实生命中的自己相遇之后，才拥有了真实的盔甲。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这也是芬兰教育一骑绝尘的原由，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在纪录片《他乡的童年》中，可以看出芬兰教育强调让孩子成为他们自己。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/a9a4f0fc1fe22c6199d959149e6a9ec7.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><img src="/uploads/20210324/20dc51f4dc1fdb1f284563abf8b3fcfc.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"></p><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">图片来自网络截图</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">重视孩子的内在素养通过常识与创意培养孩子的独立性与自主性，从而培养孩子的责任感、自信度、抗挫力、抉择力、主观能动性和与他们建立和谐的人际关系。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育的真实意义是帮助孩子找到自己，孩子的“独立的自尊体系”和“美满的原生家庭”是孩子心理健康的护法。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而美满的原生家庭和优质的教育可以帮助他们早日找到“自由而独立的灵魂”，让他们拥有真实的铠甲，却并不能直接代替其生活在世上披荆斩棘解决所有成长的苦难和挑战。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; 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color: rgb(136, 136, 136); text-align: center; font-size: 18px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: left; line-height: normal; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> 独立完善的自尊体系 </span></strong></span></section></section></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">反观一得的悲剧，大概折射了很多家长的养育问题，对孩子形成“独立完整自尊体系”的忽视。独立完整的自尊体系是指人的独立性、自主性、创造性，它要求人们既不依赖外在的任何情感权威，又不依附于任何现实政治力量，在真理的追求中拥有独立判断的能力，在社会参与中具有独立的自主精神。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，在良善的原生家庭和成功且幸福的人生之间还应该有一座桥，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这座桥就是“独立完整的人格自尊体系”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">，这种每人各异的“自我认知”和“独立操守”是孩子强大的心灵屏障，是他们健康心理的重要防线。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/2a9d8692327e4347ed265945b2a743d7.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">图片来自unsplash.com</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一得虽然有爸爸强大的爱做护法，但或许过程中并没有形成自己独立的人格体系，以至于在进入多元的文化环境，不能自主地处理情绪、包括面对多种复杂的境地慌乱了阵脚，许是一直对自己想要什么模棱两可又碍于爸爸厚重的爱不肯推却，抑郁症患者通常温柔、敏感、细腻而善良，他们</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当中的一些都是“没有自我”的依赖型、讨好型人格，是值得一万分疼惜和保护的。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而独立自尊的体系怎么构建，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">Christopher Moon博士在他的畅销著作《亲密关系》中告诉我们，“归属感”和“价值</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">感”是一个人童年时期乃至一生追求的两样东西。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果说一个人早年阶段的“归属感”代表了亲密友好的原生家庭，“价值感”则是在成长过程中孩子逐渐形成的“自我认知”和“自我认同”，</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果只有“归属感”却没有“价值感”，一个人的情感天平就会失衡。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">父母对孩子最好的礼物除了给予他温暖的原生家庭，更重要的就是帮助他建立“独立完整的自尊体系”，他会生根发芽，变成自信，勇敢，乐观，善于表达，毫无畏惧，坚如磐石。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">法国弗朗索瓦·勒洛尔教授在《恰如其分的自尊》中告诉我们：独立的人格和自尊体系是由三大要素构成：自爱，自我观，自信。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/f3349219a98e391b08a4435de7b917cc.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">图片来自unsplash.com</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自爱：</span></strong><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自爱是无条件的，无论你表现得好坏，内心深处都有一个声音告诉自己，你值得爱和尊重。自爱很大程度上来源于儿童时期从家庭中获取的爱及情感的滋养。书中他提到“一个42岁的手工艺人对作者说：‘我最感激我的父母，他们给了我一个信念：我是一个好人，尽管我曾经让他们失望，青春期我的学业一团糟糕，还做了很多傻事，但我始终觉得他们不会不再爱我，他们坚信我会成为一个有用的人，他们会狠狠教训我，单从来不说我一无是处’”</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自我观：</span></strong><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自我观是看待自己的眼光，对自己优缺点的评估。如果一个人对自己的评价是积极的，那么会形成内心强大的力量。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自信：</span></strong><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自信主要来源于家庭教育和学校教育，通过得到反馈，得出“自己有能力胜任此事”或相反的反馈，所以自信需要行动来维持和发展。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/f11506283c3f81d13d810cb41dc2d10a.jpg" style="width: 450px;" data-filename="filename"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">图片来自unsplash.com</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">总体来说，自尊的养分=感觉被爱+感觉自己有能力</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">。这两大需求对我们来说都是必不可少，这同时也与《亲密关系》里讲的“价值感”和“认同感”不谋而合。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">说到具体的做法，书中引入了一个概念，是“周哈里窗口”：通常情况下人们认为一个人只要</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“开放区”</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">扩大了，他的自我独立性和自尊体系构建就会增强。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><table cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; width: 676.667px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; text-indent: 0px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><tbody style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><tr style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; height: 22px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><td width="135" valign="top" height="22" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-width: 1px 1px 3px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(192, 80, 77) rgb(192, 80, 77) white; border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(192, 80, 77); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></td><td width="135" valign="top" height="22" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 3px solid white; border-left: none; border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(192, 80, 77); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自己知道</span></section></td><td width="135" valign="top" height="22" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 3px solid white; border-left: none; border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(192, 80, 77); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自己不知道</span></section></td></tr><tr style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; height: 24px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><td width="135" valign="top" height="24" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: none; border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-left: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(229, 185, 183); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">别人知道</span></section></td><td width="135" valign="top" height="24" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: none; border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-left: none; border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(229, 185, 183); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">开放区</span></section></td><td width="135" valign="top" height="24" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: none; border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-left: none; border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background: rgb(229, 185, 183); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">盲区</span></section></td></tr><tr style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; height: 24px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><td width="135" valign="top" height="24" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: none; border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-left: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">别人不知道</span></section></td><td width="135" valign="top" height="24" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: none; border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-left: none; border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">隐藏区</span></section></td><td width="135" valign="top" height="24" style="margin: 0px; padding-right: 7px; padding-left: 7px; word-break: break-all; border-top: none; border-right: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(192, 80, 77); border-left: none; border-image: initial; max-width: 100%; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">未知区</span></section></td></tr></tbody></table><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">周哈里窗口</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">将盲区转换为开发区要善于倾听，将隐藏区转换为开放区要善于自我披露，即毫不犹豫的表达自己的想法和感受，将未知区转化为开发区：让自己进入不熟悉的环境和尝试新的经历。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; 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max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> 做青少年自杀的“看门人” </span></strong></span></section></section></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">马斯洛在需求金字塔中告诉我们最上端的需求是价值需求，我想到国内一位有名的心理咨询师，母亲患了轻度偏瘫后遗症，子女们照顾得很好，母亲却整天唉声叹气，甚至有轻生念头。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">于是他开始故意营造母亲的被需要感，告诉母亲自己早上总是不会醒来，迟到多次，于是母亲每天早上掐着时间点，一歪一歪的挪到儿子门前喊儿子起床。如果让我们的孩子觉得自己“有用”“有价值”，除了孩子自己的探索之余，我们也要给予适当的“价值引导”让他们发现自我，找到存在的意义。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">美国天普大学心理学博士谢刚在他的研究中告诉我们：</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; font-size: 16px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 10px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 1.2em; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: -0.5em 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; line-height: 1em; height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; font-size: 80px; line-height: 1em; color: rgb(83, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“</span> <section style="margin: 1.6em 0px 0px -0.6em; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 4em; border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(83, 168, 51); display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; line-height: 0; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 0; width: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="margin: -0.5em 0px 0px; padding: 10px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自杀是可以预防的，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其中一个关键步骤就是科普自杀征兆。50%到75%的人在自杀前有征兆，而这些征兆是最容易被熟悉他们的家人、朋友和老师察觉到的。这些征兆包括：</span></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 2.2em; max-width: 100%; width: 577.422px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">直接或间接地表示想自杀  </span></p></li><li style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自杀遗书或计划   </span></p></li><li style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">以往的自杀尝试   </span></p></li><li style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">交代后事（如交代安葬，写遗书，或把珍贵的物品分发他人）</span></p></li><li style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">沉迷于死亡的幻想中</span></p></li></ul></section></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; height: 1em; float: right; line-height: 1; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 4em; border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(83, 168, 51); line-height: 0; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 0; width: 0px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section><span style="margin: -0.11em 0px 0px -0.1em; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; font-size: 80px; color: rgb(83, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">”</span></section></section></section></section><img src="/uploads/20210324/b33dcedc5cf3825059a8f37d78f18a8c.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很多人唯结果论地认定因为一得自杀所以一得的父亲就要被放在公众的放大镜下，接受千夫所指，很多网友还去一得爸爸的网页逐字寻觅端倪，这种主观臆断的揣测，如果对于一个恰恰单纯善良、真心为儿子付出了十余年的老父亲来说，未免太过刻薄和无情无义了。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一得的悲剧并不是一个人的悲剧，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而一得的“自杀”也不并能埋没他曾经所有的努力和辉煌，包括那些有爱的瞬间，他们</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">将亘古流长。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不能因为最后的灰色否定了一个人生命的价值和周遭对他的爱和怀念。相信爸爸的爱，包括我们祝福会守护一得的灵魂，让他安详、清净、在另外一个世界体会祥和饱满、泰然自足。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“一个人真正的凯旋，在于他，不断破坏他的凯旋门。”一个人自我认知的形成是一个不断打破和重建的过程，这是人贯穿一生的命题。之所以——自胜者勇。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">最后希望一得的父亲能早日走出丧子之痛，人世间，“爱别离”最使人心肝摧折，凡是生命，就会活动，一活动就有流转，有生灭，有荣枯，有盛衰，仿佛走动的马灯，在灯影迷离中，我们体会着得与失的无常，变动与打击的苦痛——</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“愿如今离别的果，</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">是未来相遇的因，</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">与你离别后，</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你便存在与时时处处，</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">万物之中。”</span></section><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 10px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 13px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">资料参考：</span></section><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 13px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">1.美国国家精神健康研究所网站：https://www.nih.gov/about-nih/what-we-do/nih-almanac/national-institute-mental-health-nimh</span></p><p style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; 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max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 13px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">3.Mental Health System in China: History, Recent Service Reform and Future Challenges，2011</span></p><p style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 13px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">4.简单心理与企鹅辅导《2020大众心理健康洞察报告》，2021</span></p><p style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 13px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">5.纪录片《灯火之下》，2019</span></p><p style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 13px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">6.Integrated Mental Health Services in China: Challenges and Planning for the Future，2017</span></p><p style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 13px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">7.壹心理《2019中国抑郁症领域白皮书》，2020</span></p><p style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 5px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; 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