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作者：俅俅阅读

分类：悦读发布时间：2021-03-25 10:04:16 249次阅读 情商高的人，他们都有强大的自我意识，了解自我的情感。他们能管理情绪，能从悲伤和不幸中重新振作。但也许最重要的是，他们能控制冲动，也懂得延迟满足，从而避免轻率的觉得和不妥的行为。......

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padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是，我爸妈的脾气具有明确的指向性，在家相对少些，尤其是对我就更少了；基本上都对外，用我妈常说的话就是“人不犯我，我不犯人”。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在我胎龄8个月大的时候，她挺着大肚子，踢开了某领导的门，要求其赔偿我爸被他儿子打伤的医药费。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; 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padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">幼儿园一个男孩总亲我、打我、扒拉我，老师和同学看到我妈妈，就会告诉她：你家珊珊又被大宝弄哭了。我妈说小孩子打打闹闹很正常，但是频次越来越高，我妈从老师那侧面了解了一下，为什么这个小孩如此嚣张，老师都不敢管，原来他妈妈在幼儿园承包了厨房，性格比较泼辣。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当第 N 次被告知我被欺负后，我妈第二天一早就冲进了幼儿园厨房，找到男孩妈妈，指着她说：“你儿子小，我打他不行！但是你，我可以！再让我发现你儿子欺负我家珊珊，我就来揍你！”从那以后，大宝再没欺负我，有时候离我近了，被他妈妈看见都会被拽走。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">随着长大，再加上爸妈这样的强后盾，我不再因为小事哭哭唧唧了；也会发发小脾气了，比如摔打下书本，甩甩脸色表达自己的不满；但是一直到大学毕业，都没和别人吵架或者动过手。这种看起来多数时间乖乖女、偶尔傲娇小公主的性格，好像身体内部一直有个小火苗等待燃烧成炬。当我大学毕业独自面对社会的时候，它就替我爸妈出来“保护”我了。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 10px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; visibility: visible; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; 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max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">宣泄情绪的魅力</strong></span></p></section><section data-darkmode-color-16063041959277="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-original-color-16063041959277="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(88, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(88, 166, 51)" data-style="width: 18px; height: 18px; border-width: 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-radius: 50%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; background-color: rgb(88, 166, 51);" data-darkmode-color-16158616896646="rgb(65, 65, 65)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)|rgb(64, 64, 64)|rgb(65, 65, 65)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16158616896646="rgb(88, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(87, 166, 51)|rgb(88, 166, 51)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 18px; height: 18px; border-width: 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-radius: 50%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; background-color: rgb(88, 166, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(65, 65, 65) !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; visibility: visible; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">毕业后开始北漂生活，遇到了很多需要自己去解决的困境。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这时遇到的外部刺激，很大程度上激活了我保护自己的方式。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">毕业后第一次租房，没有燃气了，得知前租户把煤气卡带走了，房东让我自己办。十多年前，北京买燃气还得去工商银行排队，那时候银行窗口全开，办个简单的业务都得一个小时。我排了很久的队，告知开卡还得去燃气所，给了我一个地址。第二天上午请假，一早去燃气所办理开卡，去了就被踢皮球了，大妈说：“办不了！”我客气地问：“这里办不了应该去哪？”大妈：“说了办不了，所长不在！”</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">对方的态度，自己时间的浪费，工资的损失，事情的无法推进……我一下子就忍不住发泄出来了，我站在门口大吼道：我昨天在银行浪费了半个下午，说不行，让到这儿来！今天请假扣钱，来办这个破卡，你们又 TM 说不行！？</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一个男的出来了，说能办能办，要了身份证就走了。然后五分钟就给我办好了……我就，就挺意外的。</span></section></section></section><img src="/uploads/20210325/f83697492782b3e30cb9e99dc467b542.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section style="margin: 25px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-darkmode-color-16158617291136="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158617291136="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">Photo by Isaiah Rustad on Unsplash</span></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">还有一次去找朋友玩，在西直门地铁站，我站在地图前面，研究我该从哪个口出去，这时候有一个女生，不知道从哪冒出来的，踩了我一脚，嘟囔了句对不起。也不疼，我也没吱声，稍微往旁边挪了一点点，继续看地图，她突然对我大吼一声：“我跟你说对不起，你不会说没关系啊！？”我被吓了一哆嗦，瞬间我回吼了一句：“谁 TM 规定的你说对不起，我就要说没关系！啊？！”然后她灰溜溜地走了。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我当时挺高兴，为自己的反应速度、逻辑、气势一一打了满分。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果说前面两次只是情绪发泄顺便解决了问题，那么这一次是我有意识地选择发泄，并得到了外界的认可。两年前冬天，在 301 医院给发烧的孩子看急诊，上午 11 点到的，下午 1 点多屋子里还都是人，大夫也没吃饭没上厕所的。这时候冒出来一个男的，站在门口大声要求大夫先给他开点药，说孩子在家发烧呢。大夫说得排队，大家都在排队呢。他还在那继续磨叽大夫：“你给我开个药，我就走了，我这个快，孩子在家等着呢。”</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">全屋子当时少说也有八九个家长，男男女女的都不吭声，我当时火就上来了，就觉得大家把大夫放在什么位置了啊，难道插队你们的利益没受损吗？非让一个大夫去解决这种破事。我大声说：“我家孩子发烧都在这都等三小时了，你家孩子在家舒服等你开药，凭什么让你插队？你老老实实后面排队去！”那男的杵在那差不多一分钟，然后就走了……居然就走了，孩子不是着急等药吗？<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">轮到我们就诊时，大夫明显更关照一些，更温柔一些，将心比心吧。那次我觉得，我简直是打抱不平的女侠，维护了自己和他人的利益。</span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">就这样，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当我发现大部分不公正，通过发飙都可以完胜收场，我的意识好像“觉醒”了，在情绪宣泄的路上狂飙了起来。</span></span></section></section></section><img src="/uploads/20210325/7c46d9acd2ef10360f0b30633b14feb4.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; 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font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-darkmode-color-16158617291136="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158617291136="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(249, 174, 165); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">Photo by Aditya Saxena on Unsplash</span></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">生活中，对于开车插队的，变道不打灯的，走应急车道的，我都以疯狂的方式回应着：超过对方后竖中指，疯狂按喇叭，跟对方互彪脏话。超市、车站、医院哪里有插队，哪里都有我的如雷般暴跳。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">工作上，我是做产品和运营管理的，在产品设计上，因为自己眼里揉不得沙子，易着急，所以能同理用户使用产品时的状态，总是能提出用户体验提升的方向。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">家庭里，我也独占上风，对于老人看到的谣言新闻，错误观念，从来都不客气地纠正；对儿子也语气严厉，对孩子的幼稚行为不能理解，也不能容忍。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">那时候我知道自己情绪管理不好，但是我觉得这是利大于弊的事情，</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">改变情绪管理方式，这在我的待办事项里属于重要不紧急的，总之就是没当回事。</span></span></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 10px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; visibility: visible; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 677px; vertical-align: top; visibility: visible; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: -4px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-darkmode-color-16158617291136="rgb(163, 163, 163)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158617291136="#fff|rgb(62, 62, 62)" data-style="text-align: center; font-size: 24px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); box-sizing: border-box;" class="js_darkmode__3" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; 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padding: 5px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; border-radius: 16px; vertical-align: top; line-height: 1; background-color: rgb(87, 166, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(64, 64, 64) !important;"><section data-darkmode-color-16063041959277="rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-original-color-16063041959277="rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(87, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(87, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-color-16158616896646="rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)|rgb(64, 64, 64)|rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16158616896646="rgb(87, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(87, 166, 51)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 6px 0px 8px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); height: 18px; line-height: 18px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong data-darkmode-color-16063041959277="rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-original-color-16063041959277="rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(87, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(87, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-color-16158616896646="rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)|rgb(64, 64, 64)|rgb(255, 255, 255)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16158616896646="rgb(87, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(87, 166, 51)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">战败的公鸡</strong></span></p></section><section data-darkmode-color-16063041959277="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-original-color-16063041959277="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(88, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16063041959277="rgb(88, 166, 51)" data-style="width: 18px; height: 18px; border-width: 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-radius: 50%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; background-color: rgb(88, 166, 51);" data-darkmode-color-16158616896646="rgb(65, 65, 65)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)|rgb(64, 64, 64)|rgb(65, 65, 65)" data-darkmode-bgcolor-16158616896646="rgb(88, 166, 51)" data-darkmode-original-bgcolor-16158616896646="#fff|rgb(87, 166, 51)|rgb(88, 166, 51)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 18px; height: 18px; border-width: 4px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); border-radius: 50%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; background-color: rgb(88, 166, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important; color: rgb(65, 65, 65) !important;"><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); text-align: center; visibility: visible; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">飘高了容易摔，我终于触“顶”了，出口不逊伤了同事……</span></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一次客服反馈用户使用产品中遇到了问题，工程师 A 找我说这不是问题，不需要修复，这是你们产品经理要求的。首先他语气不客气，又摆文档又翻聊天记录的，我当时对他的所作所为，感觉到的是恶意：你们产品部总算有把柄落我手上了，这就是你们提的，你们就是爱瞎提需求；其次我虽不是他的直属领导，但是对他印象一直都不错，觉得他不是那种能开发出错需求的人。然后情绪又占领了高地，说了一句：“这个需求产品提的明显是错的啊，你不会判断吗？她让你做你就做，她让死你也死啊！”</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这句话脱口而出的时候，自己都惊了，怎么就吐噜出来了啊，当时就后悔了。</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我平时在外面对陌生人做的事，好像彻底突破了边界，伤害到了我周围的人。</span></span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他的领导把事情捅到了更高层，然后把平时对我的种种不满，进行了 360 度无死角的批判，当然有些事也被同时放大了，平时大家互相开玩笑的话，从我嘴里说出来的就变成了人身攻击。我一切都是为了项目，我得罪你们我图啥？我做了那么多事，你们就只盯着缺点吗？不仅没被理解，还要像个罪人一样被指责，甚至莫须有的“罪名”都要加到你身上，除了常有的愤怒，我更委屈，更伤心。</span></section></section></section><img src="/uploads/20210325/fd144cdc250818ddf2771e1a0e36bc12.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section></section></section><section style="margin: 25px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-darkmode-color-16158617291136="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158617291136="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(249, 174, 165); letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">Photo by Kinga Cichewicz on Unsplash</span></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">第一次，我像个战败的公鸡，耷拉着脑袋，丧了半年，第一次体会到上班如上坟。也反思了半年，我买书看书，但是同理对方感受、看到对方需求，这个道理我早都懂啊，但是还是觉得不行，有些人就是坏我凭什么同理他？我甚至都给自己憋出了幻像，当我生气的时候，我脑中会出现一只灰白相间的小老虎，我一生气我就能看见它龇着牙要咬人，我就跟它说，乖啊，不生气，不跟他计较。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">丧了半年，接纳了一部分，也知道问题所在，改是改了，但没全好。一次周末全家去济南玩，走在济南的街上，不知道怎么就聊到了爱不爱的问题，儿子说：“姥姥爱我，爸爸爱我，爷爷爱我，姥爷爱我，妈妈没那么爱我……”</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我当时差点就哭了，硬憋回去，我可以允许你不爱我，但是我是真的爱你啊。我问他：“为什么觉得妈妈没那么爱你呢？”他说：“你老跟我发火，也老说改改改，但是你还是那样，你爱我就不会这样，不想理妈妈了，哼！”是的，儿子的情绪也变得越来越差，爱生气、易烦躁。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">对于情绪的放纵，让我周围的关系变差，让我本意的好事也都往坏了发展。回北京后我痛定思痛，我自己好，孩子肯定也会好的，又开始买书学习管理我的情绪，顺手也买了两本关于情绪管理的绘本给他。</span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">从孩子绘本里我发现了新大陆，红色是生气、紧张，黄色是兴奋，情绪居然能以颜色的方式被分类、被认识，而不是虚的一个词；</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子通过绘本可以认识这么多种情绪，而我的小老虎才只能识别生气和伤心啊……都说育儿育己，这一次，我和孩子一起共同开始了打败坏情绪之旅。</span><br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">由于我能看见小老虎，我以为自己出现了幻视，还找了心理咨询师，她说我这样是很好的觉察方式，并不是幻视。她让我把对小老虎说的不要生气，改成：“我知道你现在很生气/很伤心，我们来尝试一下深呼吸。”她说不让生气本身还是在压抑情绪，要让情绪在身体里流动起来，我问什么是流动？她说就是</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">觉察到情绪的存在，允许它存在，感受它对你的影响，体会它带给你身体上的感觉，然后它自己就会流走了消散了，对你来说可能是个长期的过程。</span></span></section></section></section><img src="/uploads/20210325/a182700478385a718c781d84d31a7cff.jpg" data-filename="filename" style="width: 450px;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; font-size: 15px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section></section></section><section style="margin: 25px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-darkmode-color-16158617291136="rgb(136, 136, 136)" data-darkmode-original-color-16158617291136="#fff|rgb(136, 136, 136)" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 5px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; font-size: 13px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 12px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(82, 168, 51); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲ </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">Photo by Ben White on Unsplash</span></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin: 20px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2em; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">现在，我的小老虎不见了。开车在路上也很久没骂人了，对不守规矩的人依然不妥协，但也能做到内心毫无波澜（</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">主客体分离</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">）；吼孩子的频率也大幅下降，亲子关系比之前和谐多了；在和家人辩论问题时发现语气激烈也会马上会调整；跟同事的关系也融洽了很多，产品经理和工程师只有相“爱”没有相杀。总之，在与终极 boss 情绪的对决中，我快看到胜利啦……</span></span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px; 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